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'Friendship Friendship—thedifferenceinChinaandtheWestChineseexceptfriendshipstobemorelasting.Differentfoundationsforfriendships.Westernsexpectfriendstobeindependent.Chineseusuallyexpectmorefromtheirfriends. Chineseexceptfriendshipstobemorelasting.ForChineseatruefriendshipenduresthroughoutlifechanges.Chinesearefriendseveniftheyhaven’tspokenfor20years.Ifyousharedsomethingatonetime,thenallyourlifeyouarefriends.Thisisthebestofguanxi(关系),theWideWebthatconnectsChinesethroughtimeandspace.So,wecansayChineseinventedtheInternetlongbeforeBillGateswasborn.InNorthAmerica,eventherelationshipinwhichpeoplefeelcloseandtelleachotherpersonalproblemsmaynotsurvivelifechangessuchasmovingtoanothercity,graduationfromauniversityormarriage.Ifthepeopledonotseeeachotherregularly,therelationshipislikelytodie. Differentfoundationsforfriendships.Chinesefriendsshare“thingsincommon”:atask,aclass,thehometown.Friendshipsareformedbypeoplewhoworkorgotoschooltogether.Youmayormaynotliketheperson,butifheorshecandosomethingforyoubecauseofhispositionorjob,youcanbefriends.ButinNorthAmerica,businessandfriendshiparekeptseparate.Thefriendshipsareusuallytiedtospecificactivities.Apersonmayhaveworkfriendsandleisure(休闲时)activityfriends.Alsofriendstendtohavesimilarfinancialcircumstances,becausefriendshipintheWestisbasedonequality. Westernsexpectfriendstobeindependent.Why?It’sbecausetheirfriendshipismostlyamatterofprovidingemotionalsupportandspendingtimetogether,sotheydonotfeelcomfortableinarelationshipinwhichonepersonisgivingmoreandtheotherisdependentonwhatisgiving.Awesternerwillrespondtoafriend’stroublebyasking“Whatdoyouwanttodo?”Theideaistohelpthefriendtothinkouttheproblemanddiscoverthesolutionheorshereallywantsandthentosupportthesolution.Chinesefriendsgiveeachothermoreconcretehelp.AChinesewillusepersonalconnectionstohelpafriendgetsomethinghardtoobtain.Theygiveeachothermoneyandmighthelpeachotheroutfinanciallyoveralongtime. Chineseusuallyexpectmorefromtheirfriends.IntheWest,youcancertainlyaskafriendtodosomethingwithyou,butyourecognizethatyourfriendmaysayno,ifheorshegivesyouasreason.Youwouldnotexpectafriendtodropeverythingtorespondtoanon-urgentneedsuchasshopping.Norwouldyouexpectafriendtorecognizeandrespondtoyourwisheswithoutstatingthem.AfriendinChinaissomeonewhooffershelpwithoutwaitingtobeasked.Therearefewlimitstowhatyoucanexpectfromafriend.Youcanfeelfreetotellyourfriendwhatheorshecanorshoulddoorhelporpleaseyou. Friendship—thepopularAmericansitcom,FRIENDS RachelGreenMonicaGellerPhoebeBuffayJoeyTribbianiChandlerBingRossGeller FriendsisanAmericansitcomwhichpremieredonNBConSeptember22,1994.TheseriesrevolvesaroundagroupoffriendsintheareaofManhattan,NewYorkCity,whooccasionallylivetogetherandsharelivingexpenses.Thefriendshipbetweenthemarestrongandtouching.TheGreenwichVillagebuildingusedasthefriends"apartmentblockinestablishingshots.TheCentralPerk Goodfriendsarelikestars.Youdon’talwaysseethem,butyouknowtheyarealwaysthere.'